Ideas about Friendship
Recently, I have tended to find myself doing some pretty deep thinking. Hence, my previous post about the afterlife. I have been thinking about the people who I regard as my friends. Family is excluded (and trust me, there are some family members that I have, though not many, who are less important to me than my friends.) I guess the reason why I have been thinking about this is a direct consequence of the downsizing of my family as a result of death and marriage/migration.
Here are some of my ideas about the people I consider bredrens (friends). People who you can call on when you need a helping hand or find yourself in a situation that you are unsure you can manage on your own. People that share your successes and failures, joys and sorrows, highs and lows. Folks that you can have a disagreement or argument with, tell them about dem RA$$ (curse them) and then 30 minutes later, you’re fine again. (At least that’s the male way to do it. I shan’t bother to get into the female way of arguing at all. Oops, let me not go there!) People who have shared in many of your life’s experiences, who know you from ‘way back when.’ People in whom you know that your secrets (and we all have some) are safe! People who you should not need to hesitate to grant a favour to if asked. If you’re unable to oblige, then the reason why you can’t grant the favour should be very good. There are many more, I’m sure, but these came to mind.
Now, many of these qualities can be found in family also, spouses and boyfriends/girlfriends. Actually, one of my feelings about finding a wife/husband, is that first you should aim to be true friends, perhaps before ‘falling in love’, if that does happen at all. I don’t feel that all married folks are ‘in love’, not that anything is wrong with this.
Anyway, let me stop, as I feel that I may start to get comments asking why I posted this. Well, it’s something that I’ve been thinking about. Maybe because I also feel that the time has come in my life for me to find me a wife (hey, that rhymes!) Anyway, as I’ve said before, nothing in life happens before the time and if you believe that God has planned our lives for us, then if it doesn’t happen, He must know why. Before I leave, let me just say a real BIG UP TO BREDRENS!! Actually, if God provides you with even one in this life, it’s a real treasure in my opinion.
I’m going to stop the deep thinking now and go hold a walk. Hey, the girls at work and my two bredrens have told me that they think my belly has reduced! Wicked my yute, gwaan work the abs yes! (Thumbs up guy, continue working those abs!) Later!
June 24th, 2002 at 7:36 pm Talk about depth in words…is there someone on the marital horizon doc? Do tell. I know how you love to keep secrets - it’s always been in your nature not to kiss and tell (although it’s obvious that you’ve been indulging in much more than that), but it’s time for a change in your nature (at least I think so)….so spill the beans please!
June 24th, 2002 at 7:59 pm How old are you, Dr. D? Have you met Suzie? She is a doctor/blogger that I have had the pleasure of meeting personally. Do doctors make good couples?
June 24th, 2002 at 9:08 pm I agree with all that you’ve said here. True friends are all that! Oh, and I need to start working those abs too…
June 24th, 2002 at 9:45 pm Rufie, you need not fret, when that ‘time’ comes, you will be priviliged to be amongst the first to know. wKen, thanks for the link and looking to ’set me up’. However, though it is true that doctors often marry members of the profession, they can make pretty boring couples. Anyhow, I’m going to check out Suzie’s blog. Funny, Suzie is the name of one of my dogs! No offense intended!
June 25th, 2002 at 1:10 am Dr.Suzie is good people. and quite gorgeous. now wKen’s got me thinkin’. good matchmaking there, wKen!
June 25th, 2002 at 7:52 am wKen, I checked Suzie’s blog and left a comment. I’ll see if she will return the favour. If not then I will hit her site again. BTW, I’m 38, I see where she is in her late twenties. Look out for more photos of Lime Cay soon. More stuff to encourage your Jamaican holiday!
June 25th, 2002 at 7:54 pm Read your comments regarding friendship, and agree totally. I always say that I need at least a two bedroom house - I must always have a bedroom for a friend down on their luck, (or for any reason) who shows up on my doorsteps, needs a place to stay, knows he or she is welcome no questions asked. Regarding World Cup Soccer - Europeans no longer dominate the sport simply because ther are so many of us others - it’s just another time another world. Keep the thoughts rolling along, it makes for some entertaining and amusing reading.
June 25th, 2002 at 8:25 pm Hi Aunt P. Welcome. Yes, I can only say that I have spent many a wonderful holiday in your home, both in New Jersey and Florida. You and Mummy really were great friends and you have taken both Rufie and myself as your own children as well. Many many thanks to both you and Uncle Appleton! Now that Mummy is gone, you must still feel free to visit us, though I know it is difficult for you to come to the house and not see her. Just think how long it has taken for me to adjust to her not being here. Hope to hear from you again soon. I will keep writing, it’s therapeutic and I love to get feedback. Your point about the World Cup is quite valid. Take care of yourself.