She proposed!
A friend told me this story. She said that one of her daughter’s friends was visiting her home on Christmas night. Apparently, this has been something customary that they have done over the years. Usually, they exchange Christmas presents and then hang around for drinks and so on. The friend is a guy, let us call him TJ. I met him once about six months ago very breifly. He is a vey fat individual who apparently cannot control his appetite for food and he is the type who will consume two or three burgers and then wash them down with the supersize soda that they sell in fast food chains.
TJ recently got engaged to one of the girls that my friend’s daughter knows. The wedding date has already been set, but I am not sure when it is.
This girl (TJ’s fiancee) was also there on Christmas night and is also quite large herself. But I am told that prior to meeting TJ, she had become quite concerned about her size and had developed quite poor self esteem. She made a considerable effort to exercise, curtail her eating and lose weight. This she did apparently with great success. She lost over 40 pounds, had bought new clothes and was wearing makeup and started going out again (this is apparently when she met TJ). Since meeting him, she has regained all the weight that she lost and more (perhaps because she is happy) and she is accompanying him on his eating binges.
Anyhow, please don’t feel I am criticising them for their size, I am just telling the story (after all, I have gained weight myself, something I need to attack in earnest in 2003).
TJ’s fiancee is a lawyer. He fixes cars, but he has no steady job and does the odd job from home, and, he really has no formal training in auto-mechanics. I don’t know if I would give him my car to fix, as I was told by my friend that he has had a number of dissatisfied customers in recent times.
Apparently, on Christmas night when gifts were being exchanged, TJ’s fiancee said that she had something special to give him. Everyone gathered round watching eagerly as she said she wanted the attention of all present. She got down on her knees in front of TJ, and took a very small gift wrapped box out of her pocket. She gave it to TJ and told him to open it, which he did. It was a ring. Still on her knees, she then took the ring out of his hands and then proceeded to ask him if he would marry her. 
Well, naturally he looked at her and said yes, as they were already engaged with a set wedding date. Apparently all in the room started to laugh, including TJ. She laughed eventually and told them that she had wanted to be different. I guess she was.
I can’t say that I would like to have been put in that situation, but maybe I am just a bit too conventional. Anyhow, that is what I have to share this evening. I thought it a bit different myself and if you wish to, please feel free to share any comments or thoughts. Have a nice pre-New Year weekend! Cool vibes.
December 27th, 2002 at 7:48 pm I saw an article in Ebony about how more women are proposing to men, but with her bein a lawyer and him bein a so-so mechanic, there better be some superb grindin to back it up.I give it a year….tops. YEAH I SAID A YEAR!!
December 27th, 2002 at 10:18 pm Maybe he’d been feeling poorly lately and she did that as a way of letting him know that she really does mean to marry him!
December 27th, 2002 at 10:19 pm Sounds like she wimped it out to me… When men do that, we usually don’t have the safety net of knowing that our prospeective partner already said yes.
December 27th, 2002 at 11:20 pm Tj and his finacee are a little weird. Ok a lot weird.
December 28th, 2002 at 7:01 am That is quite bizarre! Why in the world would she do that if they are already engaged? I remember what it felt like to be overweight. Sometimes it felt good to eat, even though you KNEW it was wrong. I don’t know how to explain it.
December 28th, 2002 at 9:22 am Mad Bull, what you say is true. However, personally, I would not be too keen on popping the question to a woman from whom I feel there exists an elemant of doubt. In other words, I’d have to be pretty sure that she would respond in the affirmative for me to ask, and I guess that is something that would come from the relationship that already exists. To hold a NO in response to this question, should hurt just as bad a blow to a man balls!
Duppy, I did think about the differences in what they do, but did not dwell on it, but your point is very valid as well.
December 28th, 2002 at 11:03 am Sometimes the ways of love are strange, so I would wish them more power to their love and its longevity. Whoever said that the conventional rules of love have to apply in all cases. Let’s be glad that its more love growing than the despair that grips our world in fear everyday. To my mind, they may seem different, but they are doing things their way and without fear of what the world may or may not think.
December 28th, 2002 at 8:48 pm Sorry, a bit off topic, but the fight is on Dr! You’ve been Snow-balled by Desiree in the Blogger Snowball Fight 2002!!!
December 28th, 2002 at 8:50 pm ……….and, I don’t think it mattes who does the proposing, as long as a couple that want to be together somehow or other do get the proposal out when due! I was proposed to the old fashioned way, but you know, if I were to be single again and be inclined to marry I just might be the one doing the proposing!
December 28th, 2002 at 8:53 pm ok, so they are already engaged… well, that makes it odd, but she was in a way publicly re-assuring him that her sights are set on him? *shrug* I don’t quite get why she did it, but hey.. now they can both wear the engagement rings!
December 28th, 2002 at 8:54 pm Ooops.. Desiree Overdosing… sorry… moving along now!
December 29th, 2002 at 9:05 am Regarding the snowball fight Desiree, as you know we do not have snow here, so I’m unable to retaliate with snowballs! How about doing it in true Jamaican Dance hall style, and flinging some beer bottles your way???
December 29th, 2002 at 11:38 am
December 29th, 2002 at 12:36 pm Actually, I’d have used a Shandy bottle myself