Why is it that some
Why is it that some children are bullies? They all come home from the hospital as cute, little bundles….. Okay, so some of them do cry a hell of a lot…..Okay so most of them do cry a hell of a lot. But they are all cute babes.
Even thru toddlerhood we see more funny and cute sides to them than not.
We send them to school and some are still angels, some are just little kids, not all here most of the time, and some of them become BULLIES !!!
All three of my kidlets have had some incidents with bullies. I must admit, that I have done a slight injustice to my kidlets by telling them to never be mean to others. Because, there sure are some mean kids out there.
I finally had to agree with what Popsy was telling them - go out there and stand up for yourself! We’ve told them that as long as they don’t throw the first punch, they are okay with us. But why does it have to be that way?
People used to think that bullies were mean boys. Well, I am here to tell you that some of the worse bullies are girls! Kidlet# 2 & #3 are boys and they have had girls do and say the meanest things to them. Of course, they were both taught not to hit girls, but I found myself telling KL#2 to hit his she-fiend! I kinda retracted that, and told him that he knew he could flatten her with one punch and to keep that in mind when next she teased him.
My older brother tells me that I should be teaching him other tricks…..like the pin on the chair kind. But poor KL#2 has the worst timing in the world and the teacher would be sure to walk by just then.
KL# 3 is a bit more aggressive than # 2 - the same she fiend was bothering him one day, and threw his hat over the kindergarten fence. The kindergartens were not allowed beyond the fence. He bided his time…. when they had their ice-skating afternoon KL#3, who has been skating from the tender age of 2, quickly realized that she fiend was not the best skater and would wait for her and quickly skate by her, and very gently pushing her down.
She-fiend has changed schools, but when she told her class of her move, the entire class cheered. While it is rather sad that they did this, I can certainly understand their side of the issue. As for the Kidlets, they are all standing up more for themselves now and even more importantly. standing up for each other. I am glad that I have well-mannered, kind, respectful kids, who do know when others are invading their territories.
Hopefully, there will not be many more fiends of any gender in our kidlets years to comes. For those of you who have children, please watch for the signs, and listen to your kids, may they not have too many fiends as well. While teaching them to be good kids, teach them to stand up for themselves as well. Those of you who think there is a fiend lurking in your child, curb it now, because they will ultimately be the losers.
May 29th, 2003 at 3:37 pm Hi again Ciya! I guess the enforced confinement has given you little else to do but blog! Well, I suppose that out of every evil comes good. (I wonder if we could we get this quarantine extended if it meant more posting from you?! )KL#2 sounds like he has the right idea. I can understand your concern about telling them not to hit girls, but it sounds like girl-fiend has it coming to her. Lick har rass! I remember way back in my Prep. school days there was little female thug who decided to kick me one day! (She also had stuck a teacher in her eye with a pencil once! Yes, that much of a thug!) Well, I would have nothing of it and simply returned the favour and she landed flat on the ground. Of course, the teacher (one big burly woman if I remember) only saw me kicking her and did not believe me when I told her that she was the instigator. So, I got in trouble. Mother was called and so on. Anyway, Mummy stood by me, after all, I was telling no lie. Teacher was still vex, but hear wah, TOUGH!! Please let us have an update from you when next there is a feature event!
May 29th, 2003 at 4:39 pm Ciya, I wonder if there has been a change in how teachers oversee recess, or how they help the children to socialize? It seems to me that teachers have been prevented from teaching moral and ethical aspects of life, and it’s coming back to haunt us. It’s been a long time since I was a teacher, and longer still since I was a school child, but I think that children need MORE guidance on how to interact. I know that some schools are doing just that. They don’t allow bullying, and have great programs that are built right into the regular classes. When my younger sister was in fourth grade, a little pipsqueek of a neighbor constantly picked on her. My sister finally told my mother, who talked with Pipsqueek’s parents, and THEY said that Nan should deck Pipsqueek the next time she did something. Since Nan was the larger child, she had been told not to hit, but once she knew she could, all she had to do was threaten to strike, and the harassment ended. Unfortunately, in these times, Pipsqueek’s parents might say….”MY child wouldn’t do that,” and you’d still have to let your kid deck her! I hope you find a way to resolve this. Good luck!
May 29th, 2003 at 4:44 pm Such is the way of the world, unfortunately! My two-year-old cousins have been having problems with the bigger one constantly biting the smaller one and taking away her toys. This all ended last week, when little sis bunched up her little, baby fist and slugged big sis! The rule on boys hitting girls has always been standard, but as my mom advised my brother, if the girl hits you first, kick her back- but only in the butt, because she won’t go running to show anyone that!
May 29th, 2003 at 11:19 pm Well, I think one should bring their kids up to know how to defend themselves. Not to bully others, but to be able to protect themselves from a bully. I agree with you there Ciya…
May 31st, 2003 at 4:18 pm Dr D. I will be sure to let you know how the next round in the ring goes for both Kidlets Buffy, teachers these days often tell the children to handle the situations themselves until one of them hits the other, then the No tolerance” rule comes into effect and someone ends up getting into deep ca-ca Allison, sybling rivalry is something else again the good thing is that they usually end up looking out for each other against the world, even if they think they can beat each other to a pulp Tkx for agreeing with me mad bull I had to learn that the hard way (for the Kidlets)