Divorced!!!!!
Now, I have posted about cellular telephones before, and how annoying they can be when they ring and people take calls in certain situations. Don’t get me wrong, I’m fully aware that they are useful and have one myself…. (who doesn’t nowadays?) But, I don’t hang on to mine as if it is a form of life support!
How would you like to hear via text message from your hubby, that you he is divorcing you?? And it is sufficiently acceptable to stand up in a court of law?? Well, I have known from my high school days that Muslim men can divorce their wives by saying, “I divorce you!”, three times. I guess it simply sheds light on how much respect Islam gives to women and how ’serious’ a commitment is made when taking marriage vows. I am sure that the Muslim woman does not have the authority to divorce her husband in this manner, and even more so by a mere text message. I rest my case.
I wonder what would happen if the woman who received this message was a non techie like myself who does not even check voice mail messages on cell phones? Man, she could have been divorced and not even know it! Text messaging indeed!
July 26th, 2003 at 4:31 pm Ya know, I could NEVER travel to the Middle East. I just know that I’d see a man treating his wife badly and go off the deep end. How could such a large part of the world STILL treat women as chattel? It incenses me that the men can simply say “I divorce you” three times and walk away scot free. I think they need to even up the situation and give the women the same right!
July 26th, 2003 at 6:06 pm You have GOT to be kidding me. Divorced by SMS?? What kind of coward would do that? And that’s exactly what it is. Cowardly. And I defy any Muslim man to explain it any other way.
July 26th, 2003 at 7:50 pm Well, I knew that this post would stir up the wrath of some of the women (if not all) who read this site…and rightly so. Buffy, I wouldn’t say that I would never travel to the Middle East…I could…not sure which country I would visit though. I must say that I had my closest experience with Muslims and people from the Middle East when I was doing my Dermatology in the U.K. About 50-60% of the doctors who were doing this course with me were from that part of the world…Kuwait, Saudi Arabia, Dubai (very wealthy), Iran, Pakistan, Jordan and a couple others that I don’t remember. I found some of them to be decent people, very principled, but they also had their differences in culture which I had to respect as they are fully entitled to them. I found some of them to be very jealous of those of us from the Caribbean doing the course because we had a good command of the English language. They found women from this part of the world to be very opinioniated, and even though my female friends from Jamaica who did the course with me were from the Caribbean as well, they considered us to be from the Western world. I guess we are. A lot of the males from the Midde East did not apprecaite the behaviour of my colleagues, as they thought it ‘not becoming of a woman!’ In other words they would not bend to the wishes of a man and were not subservient. Now please don’t think my friends are abnormal in any way, as a matter of fact they are all happily married and nothing was unusual about their behaviour. It was a good cultural experience for us and we learned from each others differences. Needless to say, I could not treat a woman/wife in the way that some of these Muslims treat their women. I see it as wrong and degrading. The ‘I divorce you three times’ affair via text message, makes marriage seem like something that could be purchased at a Drive Thru window! As worthless as a burger with fries and a super sized soda!
July 27th, 2003 at 8:08 am Grrr…. If I ver got a husband and he turned round to me and said ‘you are devorcedm you are devorced,you are devorced!’, those are quite posibly the LAST words he would EVER utter.
July 27th, 2003 at 9:00 am And just think how bad this is for divorce lawyers.
July 27th, 2003 at 10:58 am Why the sad face, wKennie, were you planning on specialising on that type of law practice?