Tower Of Babel

Well, first off for the non-Jamdowners, labrish is a Jamaican colloquial term meaning to chat. So, this post is about some interesting chat.

Good company, good food and liquor are some of the basic ingredients that one needs in order to have a good labrish. Such was the recipe last nite. A small group of two dudes and one female went to dinner and feasted. On returning home, the conversation over some good VX got into male-female human relationships. Of course, the business of extramarital affairs was pretty high on the list. Why is it that she stays with her husband when she knows that he has other women with whom he has children? How does the girlfriend feel when he leaves her home late at night in order to return to the matrimonial home? What does wifey say to him when on a regular basis he is coming home at 3AM? (Not much if you ask me.)

All sorts of situations were discussed. Some of the time, the two of us guys were saying that for a lot of men, the pums (sex) was the deciding factor that keeps him coming back when he is with a woman who his peers may not consider to be his equal. She might jus a gie him some wikid slam a night time!

In other situations when as an outsider looking on, one wonders, “Why is such a nice girl with that drug dealing asshole who beats the shit out of her? Why she don’t lef him rass?” Maybe she’s ‘trapped’ and fears that because she knows so much about his wrongdoings that if she was to leave him, him might kill her blood cleat!

After a while, I think I had to conclude that sometimes it is difficult to fully understand why certain male-female relationships continue. The way I see it, the ideal situation in any human relationship is one in which both parties benefit mutually. This is not always the case though. Clearly in many situations there are dynamics that hold people together that outsiders are just not privy to. Think of the situation where a married woman has a chat with her best female friend and discloses to her that things are very rough on the homefront scene with hubby….on the verge of a split. Then in a matter of a few weeks, the next thing her best friend is being told is that she has just discovered that she’s pregnant and how happy they both are about it. Puzzling eh?

After a while the discussion changed a bit and the issue of learning to live with a partner and the differences in habits of men and women were broached. Yes, we know that the average male is an untidy dog. Wherever we drop our underwear, it stays ’till someone (whoever that may be) picks it up. Yes, we leave the toilet seat up after we piss. The hairs are left in the washbasin after we shave. Many people snore keeping their partners awake. Men belch and fart indiscriminately (especially when the ladies are absent. Yes, we do show some sort of respect to the women in our lives.)

I’m not that bad where being untidy is concerned and I can easily understand why a tidy individual will have issues living with an untidy person. The thing is that it is only the tidy soul that gets all upset when things are messy….as the untidy guy is not bothered one damn by the fact that there is dirty underwear hanging on the door of the bathroom etc.

Anyhow, this post doesn’t have much structure. Consider it more of a ‘filler’ as me nuh have nutten else to write. All told, the labrish was sweet and kept us up ’till about two this morning. So, if the post doesn’t make any sense to you, a so it go sometime.

What is it that pisses you off most about your partner’s habits? Do you think you’ll ever get them to change? My opinion…..doubtful. Learn to accept people for what they are….and if you love them, their dirty underwear, smelly farts, obsessively clean bathrooms and all else is secondary….all in the name of that four letter word….LOVE! Have a nice Sunday.

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