Nuttin’ Much…
Well, there’s nothing much happening in my neck of the woods right now. Got alot of stuff on my mind at present - family, work, just stuff , y’know! The kind of stuff that wakes you up at 3am and keeps you up till 5:30am at least, tossing and turning! Whatever… stuff comes and stuff goes - its the world turning IMHO. Whatever….
I’m gearing up for Midas’ sister’s wedding on the 20th of this month. It’ll be held at Sandals Royal Plantation in Ocho Rios, Jamaica. I’ve never been there before - its supposed to be the only five star hotel in Jamaica. It’ll be a very small wedding - 50 people max, she says.
I actually really like small weddings - my best friend had a very small wedding - maybe 25-30 people - and it was one of the best weddings I’ve ever been to - the intimacy is so high in a small wedding and it makes the event more poignant and special.
Anyway, all this wedding planning makes the woman in me wish I could have another wedding - to the same guy, of course! I’d do it so much differently now, though - definitely a small wedding - but the choosing of a dress, and the whole shibang… well, its the Cinderella story our mothers’ raise/encourage us to love! We can’t help it!
There’s something amazing about your wedding day! I remember mine so clearly! My wedding was a load of fun, we danced till the wee hours of the morning -and the speeches were unbelievable!
It started with the toast to the bridesmaids, given by one of Midas’ buddies who was a groomsman. He told us how wonderful the bridesmaids looked, etc., etc., etc., and then launched off into this story of seeing one of them at a party the night before - well, I won’t go into the story!
Lets just say everyone gasped that he thought to tell it!!! At that point, my best friend, Piggy, passed me the first glass of champagne and said, “Just drink Piggy” (Yes, we call each other Piggy - long story!!!
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The speeches were culminated with Midas’ speech, which started something like this…
“Well, alot of people have said some wonderful things about Seven and I tonight - so wonderful, that I had to wonder who they were talking about. But you know me, I don’t pretend, so I want to just make sure you know some of the truths about us tonight.
So let me start with Seven… Seven is one of the most miserable women I’ve ever known…”
Interject Piggy, with another glass or three of champagne, “Just drink Piggy, just drink…”
It went downhill from there! He faded in and out after that.. and then I hear him say, “Well, I was also going to share some of my own faults with you…”(pause for effect - the b……) “but they escape me at the moment!”
Aaarrghhhhhhhhhhh!!!! 
Actually, his speech was very, very funny - that’s why it works with us, I guess - neither of us are pretentious or give a hootie about protocol or appearances - we’re just us, and we have a weird sense of humor and … whatever, I thought it was pretty funny, myself!
I think some people got that, after our wedding - that we’re just ourselves! Whatever, we’re not perfect, and don’t care to be…
We’re definitely not formal or conventional - and don’t have much patience for that stuff. We’d rather stay home, watch tv, read… oh, and dance on the dining table! And other unconventional stuff…
Okay, I’m refocusing - weddings, oh yes… Midas’s sister - let’s just call her Dementia 
That works, since I actually call her Nutcase - Dementia’s getting married! I’m really looking forward to it!!!
So today I ordered my bridesmaid dress and took Midas and his Dad to get measured for their suits. Oh, you were asking, “Didn’t she say the wedding was on the 20th of this month?”
Yeeeeeeeeeesssssssssssssss…. now you have a glimpse into why I call her Dementia!!! They decided to get married months ago - so its not a shotgun wedding, guys!!! She’s just crazy!!! Anyway, having said that, I know that, in true Dementia fashion, it’ll be a wonderful wedding - despite all of the truly insane things she asks me to handle - and if she ever reads this, she’ll know exactly what I mean!!! 
Anyway, ladies - and gents if interested, give me any ideas for:
1. Bridal Showers - themes, games, food, etc.
2. Wedding Gift for people who already have fully-stocked home
And just for fun and curiosity…
If you had to choose the song you’d dance to at your wedding, what would it be?
If you had to choose locations - anywhere in the world - where would you like to get married?
If you had to give advice on marriage to an about-to-be or newlywed, what would it be?
And now… the clincher…
Whether you are now married or not, if you had to choose the most important traits you would want in a lifelong partner, what would they be?
Okeydokey, then, I do believe I’ve taken up enough of your time this evening!!! I have an early meeting in the am and, though the extra hour sleep this morning due to the time change was oh, so sweet, I don’t believe it will repeat itself tomorrow, so I better haul ass and get my butt to bed!
Man, this reality shit sucks - its for grownups!!! 
November 2nd, 2004 at 7:03 am Seven, as you know, I’m not married yet. Qualities in a partner…good friend/conversationalist, witty, likes to cook when time allows (pretty much like me), not bad looking (she doesn’t have to be a beauty queen), supportive and understanding, a healthy appetite for Vit S, good Mothering skills. There may be more, but I don’t want to seem to picky. The songs, definitely “One more time” (I think that is the name), that Shante Moore sings backed up by Kenny G on the sax. Actualy though Seven, I could easily forfeit the whole dress up affair, and just have the wedding with a nice dinner party after with dancing…’casually elegant’ on the invi. But that may not go down too well with her and other family members you think? Nice to se you posting with such regularity!
November 2nd, 2004 at 8:24 am Hmmmm, wedding song? I guess I’d have to say “Said I Loved You But I Lied” by Michael Bolton
November 2nd, 2004 at 8:43 am Hi Seven, Advice is “Just remember that the reason you are together is because you love each other. You’ll have differences but if you are committed to a life together then the differences will get worked out. Listen to each other and always consult on issues.” Good posts. You seemed to have been going through a rough spot there for a while. I hope things are better now. Congrats to Dementia and hubby to be.
November 2nd, 2004 at 9:39 pm Its great to see that guys are really romantics too - you just usually hide it well!!! As to the Michael Bolton song A.D - that was hysterical!!! For me, I have a few songs I love for that occasion - “The Way You Look Tonight”, Rod Stewart version; “At Last”, Celine Dion version, and “What I Won’t Do For Life” (Bobby Vernon, I think). We actually danced to a favorite song of ours from our dating years - “Heaven” by Bryan Adams. Location for me - The terrace at Half Moon overlooking the sea. I went to a wedding there and it was the most beautiful, breathtaking view - small and intimate wedding - it was wonderful! Advice, hmmmm! First of all, I think pre-marital counselling should be a law. Divorce is far too easy and too rampant and when you look at the destruction a broken marriage can leave in its wake, I think a govt. that can be asked to grant divorce should be allowed to mandate pre-marital counselling to ensure that couples are prepared for what they’re getting into, really know each other and are committed. I know some of you may think this gives the state far too much power in personal lives, but something has got to give with this easy-in, easy-out marriage situation - its not a game! Having said that, I would advise a couple that marriage, like anything truly important in life, is not easy - it takes work, dedication and commitment. As Scratchie said, remember that the reason you got into it in the first place was that you loved each other - so that means you have to give and take and make it work! It takes trust, compromise and love! But its also the most wonderful thing to have a partner in your life that you really come home to! And lastly, make certain that the person you marry is your friend - your best friend! The person you have more fun with than anyone else in the world. As to traits - He MUST make me laugh! And think I’m funny… tee hee he must be slightly crazy like I am… He must respect me as a person, respect my opinions. He must share life’s burdens with me - I don’t want any man I love to be the type who internalizes stress - we must trust and depend and rely on each other. A man who likes to share duties/chores is pretty good too. I have others, but am already hogging my own comments!!! BTW - Scratchie - thanks! A.D - looks are not a trait, they’re a feature. Doc, now that I know the qualities I soon hook you up!!!
November 2nd, 2004 at 9:40 pm That song should be “What I Won’t Do For Love”
November 3rd, 2004 at 9:07 am Great post Seven. I too am not married yet. Working towards that. I would love a smaller wedding and totally agree that the more intimate, the more special. IT’s good to see that the men also feel the same as the what’s important in a marriage. Marriage is alive and well.
November 3rd, 2004 at 1:27 pm Having been married for almost 20 years I have to really think back…..If I could do it all over again, I would get married on the beach at sunset. AD. I just howled at “Said I loved you, but I lied” I am not sure what song I would have. My eldest sister and two of her friends sang our wedding songs and I would definitely have them do it again. My advice would be that marriage can be very rewarding, however, to get the rewards you have to put alot of work into it. When times get rough,( and believe me it will!) try to remember what bound you to this person in the first place and try to recapture that. Traits. Must make me laugh…must be able to love me for me and not who you think I should be….a good father….compassionate….love to read…be willing to accept that whereas we are a couple, we do not need to be bound at the hip or to enjoy everything that the other does or likes.(sports etc)…..supportive and willing to accept support. AND MOST IMPORTANT…be willing to always communicate with each other. Hey, I wonder if I can convince Popsy to renew our wedding vows on the beach at sunset with just family and a very few friends in attendance….of course, that would mean a beach in the West Indies…yeah, this sounds like a great idea to me. !!!!!
November 4th, 2004 at 1:45 pm Ciya, let me be bad…you say on a beach at sunset…you wouldn’t happen to be thinking of one of these nude weddings now perchance? I can see the reaction from Mamacita and a certain Aunt whose name sounds like ISLAND already! Just joking around!
November 7th, 2004 at 3:33 pm D. We want the guest to stay at the wedding…not be running away in distress….20 years of marriage and three children can do serious damage to the Hot bodied chick that alot of us once were.