No Topic Really - just talking…
You know how I asked y’all for your opinions about a Real Estate Blog as a marketing tool? (And outside of Pretty Brother, MB and Sis, Ciya 
almost nobody else commented)…
Well, here’s another question? Could I have two separate, unlinked blogs where I post about Real Estate as a marketing tool in one, and post about how my clients can drive me crazy in a perfectly anonymous way in another???
Don’t get me wrong, I love my clients, and have been lucky enough to build several great relationships with many of them, where many have become friends and certainly, at least most have referred me to others. But as with any sales/customer service career, there will always be the people who challenge your sanity - no matter how ‘right’ they are, as the customer is ALWAYS right, as my Momma always taught me! Truth is, sometimes they drive you crazy BECAUSE they are right!
Aiyaiayai - its draining at times, dealing with people! As much fun as it is for me, it’s draining, because you have to always be ON! So many times when I don’t have work, I may feel lonely for my family and close , close friends, but just don’t feel up to talking, you know… Then I’ll read Sunshine’s blog about spending a weekend with a girlfriend, hanging out, going to movies, etc - and I only have my sisters and one real friend/cousin that I have that relationshiop with - and shit be told, not one of them live here!!!
I want to know this from y’all - have you ever found that because of the person you become as a spouse - meaning how your relationship with your spouse changes and solidifies who you are, what you like, what you do - changes your relationships with others?
In my case, what I mean is that Midas has become my very best friend… as my husband, there’s not very much that I even try to hide! In fact, I need to hide shit, probably 
- but I tell him everything… I share my triumphs, my mistakes, my doubts, my hurt pride, my fears, my thoughts, my personal (excessively corny) jokes,- I share it all with him! He is it!!! Its not that there’s no-one else - he’s the one I want to share it all with - even when sharing stuff sometimes proves to be a mistake… - like that crazy, guilt-evoking shopping trip - “You did WHAT????????????? 
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So, no longer living near my closest friends, the sad truth is that our relationship is more distant than it was - if we were face to face - alone with no spouses present - that distance would evaporate instantaneously - but because we are apart from each other, and tend to talk not when alone, we don’t have the opportunity to ’share’ as we can - and that sucks!
If you want more, see below… 
I don’t know how to link these extended posts - I hope it works…
I am NOT a person who forms “CLOSE” friendships easily - in fact, the people I chose to be my bridesmaids are the same ones I’d call on today as my absolute closest friends (save one - whatever - a whole other post there/ actually save two, if you’re counting my cuz, who I wanted and asked, but was on the other side of the world).
I am also not a person who likes superficial relationships. I either really like you or I don’t… If I don’t like you at all, I just can’t be bothered to pretend! ANd if I don’t care one way or another about you, why on earth do I want to stand around at a party talking to you about small, meaningless drivel? (Like First Fridays, Sunshine, which I used to go to, but stopped)
You know how they say as you get older, you get more set in your ways… well! As I get older, I get less and less tolerant of things and more firmly focussed on my values and beliefs… It has its good and bad sides, my tolerance-shift! But it has shifted, nonetheless!
In any event, how you and your spouse change each other can change your commanilities with friends, family, etc… how has this affected you in the`past? Was it a good thing, a bad thing, or just life…
Mek we share some thoughts, nuh…
January 26th, 2005 at 7:57 am I think spouses should be friends before anything else. Add some love and a strong sense of commitment and the recipe should be ready to cook up a long lasting meal that can full nuff belly.
January 26th, 2005 at 2:21 pm Hi Seven;Me nah ignore yu. Just been very busy since last week and just getting back into the blogging thing. That’s great you and Midas seem to have a good solid relationship. I firmly believe that the one you marry should be your best friend. Good going there.
January 26th, 2005 at 7:26 pm Hi 7, I must apologise I looked at the sites but never commented. I like the last one best. It was more appealing and had nuff content. Was kinda concerned that the info I would want to see as a purchaser is three pages into the site. I think my relationship with wifey allows me the opportunity to relate to friends. She is not the jealous type and so I can have my circle of friends. The relationship with her supercedes all the others though. Like you mi cannot stand the acquaintance business. If we are friends then is so but if I can’t stand yuh why do I need to stand around making small talk. Better to be at home watching tv or chatting or spending family time or…..
January 26th, 2005 at 7:29 pm I don’t see why you can’t have two blogs as long as you can’t be identified from one to the other. Wouldn’t it be more effective to have a full blown website though?
January 27th, 2005 at 12:13 am That there is the thing, Scratchie - I need a website!!! I’m trying to do research now to see what kind of website - because one thing I’ve learned is that there are websites, and there are WEBSITES!!! I’m with you, in that i like the last one best, but it gives me pause, because somebody has to have the job of keeping the info current and up to date - if you out selling real estate, who’s that person going to be??? Many of the web-builders here just build your site, train you and see ya later , baby!!! No lie - its a major necessity, but needs alot of thought, because i can’t tell you the amount of $ I’ve wasted on advertising that seemed like a great idea - but if you can’t put in the effort, what a waste of moolah!!! Me done the moolah-fi-waste $ long time!!! Truth is - I need an assistant - for Midas and I - can anyone figure out a way to convince him? We need someone to handle the paperwork and the advertising stuff…