She be 12!
Well, today’s post is sharing a chat I had with a patient at work on Tuesday. Have a young dude who I have been seeing since he was about nine, he is now sixteen. He has a chronic skin problem which in the last three or so years has been controlled with no medication, so we see him say every four months to check that he is alright. In the last three weeks, he called asking us to see him before his appointment as something seems to have developed. We granted that favour. He specifically asks me to see him since I know him from long time, and the others don’t.
Now, dude has become a typical teenager, getting hair sprouting on him face, voice getting deep and ting….obsessed with his cell phone…telling me he wants a new one. I ask why. “Some of the buttons on this one not working….and this one can’t tek picture. I want a camera phone.” So I ask him if he knows how much those cost and tell him that my phone cyaan tek picha. Now, he is from a home where money is not exactly flowing, but his mother tries. Don’t ask me what happen to his father. He is doing very well in school, and I usually try to encourage him to keep at it.
While I’m seeing him, he says he wants to ask me suppem, but him ‘fraid. I told him that he can ask me anything, he must not fret. He still hesitant. I surmise is some ‘man talk’ he want to have. Eventually, he asks me if it is “OK for him to start having sex.” I ask him to explain. He says he has a girl who he been ‘talking to’. So, I ask him if he sure is just talk them talking and nutten more. He says yes. He insists that he has not yet started having sex…with anyone. But, he says he thinking about it with this girl.
He goes on to explain that during holidays recently, she invited him over to her house…she lives down the road from him. They were listening to music, and she telling him that she love him. (Apparently, no adults were around.) He tells me that she kissed him, pulled down his zipper and proceeds to take out his manhood and play wid it. Now, I can’t blame the yute for allowing things to proceed as they did, I was once a teenager myself and I think I would have done the same. Dude says she telling him she wants to have sex, rubbing him up and he get all hard on her, but decided not to go all the way. He says that she told him that his penis is too small! He said that made him feel ashamed, so he zipped up and went home.
I asked him how old the girl was….he say she is TWELVE!! 
Now, what the backside a twelve year old gyal pickney know ’bout penis size….I doh know. Clearly she either playing round, or quite experienced. I told him to stay far from her, and that if he did have sex with a twelve year old pickney, he could get in trouble with the law. I also told him that if and when he does take on the sex business, that he must wrap it up safely in a condom. Boy, I don’t have any children yet, but raising pickney not easy. All of you who have teens to contend with, I respect you all for a job well done, this is no easy business. That is it for today. Comments as usual welcome. Take care.
March 31st, 2005 at 8:40 am I should be shocked but am not.Sadly,the instances of girls that young being sexually involved becoming quite commonplace.I hear some tales at school and a large number of these girls having sex with much older men.Actually there was an instance where the father of one the students was using his daughter as the go between
March 31st, 2005 at 9:08 am Rati…but wha ah hear…dem things ein unusual…but you did right..de young girls out dey too fast fuh dem own good…
March 31st, 2005 at 10:55 am Where is that fast ass girls mother and father? Too small! What she know bout the right or wrong size of it anyhow?!!? I got a thirteen year old sister I feel like I have to call just to be sure she still doing thirteen year old girl things. That is good this boy came to you and getting good advice will keep him coming. Have a good day Doc!
March 31st, 2005 at 11:46 am yaggayagga , bwoy when was twelve i do the same, i mean , mi and my girlfriend talk about the sex ( she was two years older ‘14′) you konw , we talk about it, we do the this crazy natty things, and we just hawe fun
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March 31st, 2005 at 1:56 pm good advice to the young man. tell him get a older girlfriend too. them lil young girls will get him in trouble. penis too small? what is this obsession wid de size ting and from such a young age. tell de youth bout pregnancy too. he doan want no pickney to support when he is only 16. dat is stress
March 31st, 2005 at 2:23 pm OUCH! Hey, if a twelve year old tells you that you’re too small, that must burn hot like fyah, nuh true?! .
Doc, you shoulda did examine the bwoy still, because maybe he isPoor yute, I feel it for him still!
March 31st, 2005 at 9:08 pm WOW-I guess there isn’t such a thing called a childhood anylonger. Whey de parents. Who taught this not even teenager her values. Good advice to the young man Dr. D. Poor fellow. I hope that insensitive remark the girl made doesn’t affect his self-worth.
March 31st, 2005 at 9:57 pm Yow MB, I did examine the yute….his skin problem affects his pubic area sometimes….nutten wrong wid him size wise…the likkle gyal want some good rahtid beating!
March 31st, 2005 at 11:38 pm TWELVE!!?? God…I hope my 14 and 15 year old nieces won’t be doing any of that until they are 35!! This young woman needs to have someone pay a LOT more attention to her upbringing! Good for you that you encouraged this young man to make a wide detour around the girl.
April 1st, 2005 at 5:37 am Good advise to the young man doc.
April 2nd, 2005 at 5:19 pm Shit! She has no business at her age thinking she knows what is big and what is small as far as Penises go! I have a 13 year old son, and I would hope that for some years yet he will not be fondled by a young lass that is going too far for her age. I know, this kind of stuff does go on with younger ones at times, but there is definitely some role-modelling that is lacking when it does - of that I’m pretty darn sure.
April 2nd, 2005 at 7:20 pm my oh my. how today’s parents have to keep their kids under wraps. I didnt know about penises until I was very old. Buffy I’m with you on your suggestion.